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Intergenerational Bonding
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Nice guys don't finish last--nice guys
are winners before the game ever
starts.
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Try
to become the kind of adult that
the child you once were would approve
of.
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You cannot pay back our love; you
can only pass it on.
Yes, it has been said in jest that
"the good
Lord gives us 12 years to learn to love our
children before they become teenagers."
When there are difficult times, we all need to be
reminded that teenagers don't cause difficulties
by themselves. The problem is that both
parents and children are changing.
Many parents don't realize that this is the
source of conflict. There is a type of triple
whammy that hits at this point of life. When our
children are teenagers, we, ourselves, are
hitting the mid-life crisis years, and our own
parents are in their declining years.
When the adolescent is asking
''Who
am
I,"
the parents are asking
"Is that all there is?"
The experts say that parents are going through
"middlescence,
"a time for looking back at what
has been accomplished and ahead to what is
left to be done.
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